not dealing with rapists, abusers, liars or people otherwise who are doing shit that’s Not Cool. Where I am, there’s just total silence around that kind of thing and ANGER if you bring up the problems with X. My first year, the queer group (run by multiple perps of s. assault) refused to have a meeting about sexual assault in the q. community because “it would turn into a witch hunt,” even though we said it wasn’t like a naming and shaming event. maybe it should have been.

So, yeah, it’s just … enabling. Enabling through misplaced kindness or through willful denial or through ignorance of what these issues look like because, weirdly, we also have a shit ton of people who don’t really grasp survivor issues in these communities (although one would have thought … they would). I don’t know if these are problems of this all being on a college campus that is very tiny or not, but … w/e, have been thinking about that recently too.