:s does this apply to a thing i reblogged abt mood swings?
partially but that post is part of a larger trend, like I don’t have a problem with people pointing out that mood swings are something that lots of people manage in non-abusive ways and having mood swings doesn’t make you inherently abusive, IF I wasn’t also seeing a lot of other stuff about how calling out this or that as abusive is “ableist” and IF I didn’t feel like the difference between an abuser weaponizing their mood swings in order to keep their victim walking on eggshells, and a non-abusive person managing their mood swings non-abusively, was pretty clear to begin with? does that make sense?
rgr-pop said: again i only EVER see these things circulated in defense of mentally ill abusers and not mentally ill people who are Irrational or Irritating or Difficult or Unfun because of being abused!!!!
is EXACTLY a huge part of my problem with those types of callout posts, it never is focused on abuse VICTIMS who are mentally ill ever and it needs to be in order to have like, any credibility tbh